take a piece of paper, and fold it into three.
Write a heading on each section. They are “things you want”, “things you don’t want”, and “things you’d put up with”.
Write 5-8 items under the things you want/things you don’t want headings. Write a couple of items under the “things you’ll put up with” heading, to show you’re after reality and not a fantasy.
Give a decent amount of thought to what you put on these lists. Remember you just might get what you ask for, and it’s best to be fairly specific, but don’t be “too specific” (LOL! if “looking for love” gender COULD be important. Thought it eventually was enlightening/humorous for them later, at the time it wasn’t a laughing matter, for a friend of mine who DIDN’T say she was looking for a man!)
When you’re certain you’ve written down the “specification” that you want, Do a “bit of ceremony”, for the benefit of any Gods/Goddesses/Powers you feel to be appropriate. Fold the paper up, and use a bit of candle wax to seal it. Put the sealed list somewhere safe.
If you want to cancel the effects of the ritual at any time, just open the sealed list, and then burn it. (It won’t “send it”, as it’s only when you seal it do you say “it’s ready” any other time it’s just a piece of paper!)